To be very honest I’m angry. Angry that so many young people are missing out on the honest conversations about following Jesus; the conversations around faithfulness, around serving others, especially the poor, about the hard times, and the many moments of failure. I’m angry because I’m having so many conversations with kids disillusioned and munted because they couldn’t keep the “happy christian” facade going any longer. - Sam Harvey
When I ask people what they want out of life, the most common answer is “To be happy”. People feel that they deserve to be happy – that it is their right (“…that all men are created equal, that they are endowed, by their Creator, with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty, and the pursuit of Happiness”). This is equally true in Christian circles. Yet the more I read of real Christians who’ve lived real lives in the real world, the more irrelevant happiness seems:
It is not some religious act that makes a Christian what he is, but participation in the suffering of God in the life of the world. – Dietrich Bonhoeffer, Letters and Papers from Prison, (July 18th 1944).
One must abandon every attempt to make something of oneself, whether it be a saint, a converted sinner, a churchman (the priestly type, so-called!), a righteous man or an unrighteous one, a sick man or a healthy one. This is what I mean by worldliness – talking life in one’s stride, with all its duties and problems, its successes and failures, its experiences and helplessnesses. It is in such a life that we throw ourselves utterly into the arms of God and participate in his sufferings in the world and watch with Christ in Gethsemane. That is faith, that is metanoia, and that is what makes a man a Christian. – Dietrich Bonhoeffer, Letters and Papers from Prison, (July 21st 1944).
[W]e are gravely mistaken to think that Christianity protects us from the pain and agony of mortal existence. Christianity has always insisted that the cross we bear precedes the crown we wear. To be a Christian, one must take up his cross, with all of its difficulties and agonizing and tragedy-packed content, and carry it until that very cross leaves its mark upon us and redeems us to that more excellent way which comes only through suffering. - Martin Luther King, Jr., ’Transformed Noncomformist’, III, Strength to Love.
The quotes above emphasise suffering, not happiness. Jesus said that his followers would suffer, and that this was a blessing (you could say this is real happiness). The letters of the New Testament talk of sharing in Christ’s suffering:
Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me. – Mt 5:11
Whoever finds their life will lose it, and whoever loses their life for my sake will find it. – Mt 10:39
If they persecuted me, they will persecute you also. – Jn 15:20
[E]veryone who wants to live a godly life in Christ Jesus will be persecuted – 2 Ti 3:12
I want to know Christ and the power of his resurrection and fellowship of his sufferings – Php 3:10
For just as the sufferings of Christ flow over into our own lives, so also through Christ our comfort overflows. – 2 Co 1:5
[R]ejoice that you participate in the sufferings of Christ, so that you may be overjoyed when his glory is revealed. – 1 Pe 4:13
We are heirs of God and co-heirs with Christ, if indeed we share in his sufferings in order that we may also share in his glory. – Ro 8:17
Martin Luther King writes about the idea of redemptive suffering:
[U]nearned suffering is redemptive. Suffering, the nonviolent resister realizes, has tremendous educational and transforming possibilities. “Things of fundamental importance to people are not secured by reason alone, but have to be purchased with their suffering,” said Gandhi. He continues: “Suffering is infinitely more powerful than the law of the jungle for converting the opponent and opening his ears which are otherwise shut to the voice of reason.” Martin Luther King, Jr., ’Pilgrimage to Nonviolence’, Stride Towards Freedom.
My personal trials have also taught me the value of unmerited suffering. As my sufferings mounted I soon realized that there were two ways in which I could respond to my situation – either to react with bitterness or seek to transform the suffering into a creative force. I decided to follow the latter course. Recognizing the necessity for suffering, I tried to make of it a virtue. If only to save myself from bitterness, I have attempted to see my personal ordeals as an opportunity to transfigure myself and heal the people involved in the tragic situation which now obtains. I have lived these last few years with the conviction that unearned suffering is redemptive. There are some who still find the Cross a stumbling block, others consider it foolishness, but I am more convinced than ever before that it is the power of God unto social and individual salvation. [Martin Luther King, Jr., ‘Pilgrimage to Nonviolence’, III, Strength to Love.
Redemptive suffering is a fascinating concept; a concept largely absent from Western culture. Our popular culture is more likely to emphasise the idea of redemptive violence (think of movies like Braveheart and Gladiator – a man is wronged and he redeems himself by extracting revenge on those who wronged him). And, unfortunately, redemptive violence is too often the ideology of choice at the political level (e.g. George W Bush sought to ‘free’ Iraq through warfare).
Considering the fact that the redemptive suffering of Jesus is the core of the Christian message, it’s strange that much of mainstream Christian culture ignores the idea of suffering. Jesus’ suffering is emphasised, but our personal suffering much less so. Actually, it’s not that strange – suffering isn’t a popular topic. We all have a natural tendency towards selfishness and laziness; we don’t like hearing about pain and sacrifice.
Romantic fantasy of suffering can only be dispelled by suffering in reality. – from ‘Manifesto of Hunger Strike’, Tiananmen Square, 1989.